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Keeping Ahead of the Joneses: On Money and Happiness

Posted by Azriel Winnett in June 20th 2005    under: emotional maturity    Tags: emotional maturity, family  
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Imagine that the Internal Revenue Service in your country claimed that you owe $1000 plus in tax arrears.

You dispute this, and you challenge the tax people in court, but the court rules that they’re right. Especially if you’re a person of substantial means, you’d pay up with a shrug of the shoulders. “Too bad,” you’ll comfort yourself, “you can’t win all the time!” and you’ll put the matter out of your mind fairly quickly.

Now let’s assume that instead of the government, an acquaintance, or even a good friend, alleges that you’re in his debt, for whatever reason, for the same sum of money.

Again, you go to court.

Your alleged creditor pleads his case, you plead yours. Eventually, the judge decides in his favor, and even explains to you very patiently why the money rightfully belongs to your opponent.

How do you react to your loss now?

Probably, even if you’re very wealthy, you’re not about to shrug it off so quickly this time!

Why not? Because somebody else is gaining at your expense! If there’s anything worse than a property loss, it’s an Ego loss. Now, for most of us, that’s really a heavy burden to bear!

What brings this kind of scenario to mind is some recent research into an interesting social paradox. Over the past 50 or 60 years, developed countries have been growing progressively richer, but their people, on the whole, don’t seem to have become much happier.

Yes, more rich people, proportionately speaking, claim to be happier at any given time than do poorer people. This should lead you to the conclusion that as incomes rise and a country as a whole grows richer, both the relatively rich and the relatively poor would become happier.

But this isn’t the case, apparently. It may still be axiomatic that an individual who becomes richer becomes happier, or at least claims to be. But when society as a whole gets wealthier, nobody seems more pleased with their lot. Why?

In a series of lectures at the London School of Economics this year, Richard Layard, an economics professor at the School, reviewed the evidence from several disciplines in an attempt to solve this paradox. One explanation he mentioned is “habituation”: that is, improvements to living standards make people happy for a while, but the effect soon fades as they begin to take the innovations for granted. Another factor, surely, as we discussed recently, is the dazzling array of choices available in affluent societies.

But Layard suggests that there’s probably a more fundamental reason why money doesn’t automatically make everyone happier. Very simply, people are in the habit of comparing their lot with others. If I have a million but you have two million, I have to be feeling miserable. My million is worthless to me.

As Layard puts it, “The unhappiness that one person’s extra income can cause to others is a form of pollution.”

In one very telling experiment, students at Harvard University were asked whether they would prefer (a) $50,000 a year while others got half that, or (b) $1000,000 a year while others got twice that much. Yes, you’ve guessed it – a majority chose (a). Give me less, they said, as long as I’m better off than others! Other studies confirmed this tendency for people to be more concerned about their income relative to others than about their absolute income.

For Lord Layard, as an economist, the main lesson here is probably that the pursuit of material comforts doesn’t always lead to happiness. But as for us, we dare not leave it at that.

Well, yes, it’s nothing more or less than human nature. But make no mistake. Even human nature can be changed. All that’s required is the will. And to the extent that a part of our nature is irrational and damaging to our own wellbeing and that of our fellows, it should be changed.

Are you up to the challenge?

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