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Five Ways to Facilitate
Group Conversations

by Steve Davis

Have you ever felt 'stuck' in a conversation with three or more people that just wasn't going anywhere? People are droning on and on about this and that, leaving you bored and wishing you could just slip away?

This is an all too familiar social situation. We've all been there and, chances are, were unaware we could help shape the conversation to be productive and meaningful for all involved.

You can make a difference in group conversations if you choose. You can "facilitate" them so that they're rewarding to you and everyone involved.

To do so, you must be willing to take responsibility for the course of the conversation without being pushy or "in charge." In well "facilitated" conversations, those unfamiliar with facilitation skills will know they've had a good experience, but they may not know why.

Here are five guidelines to effectively facilitate group conversations.

As a caution, keep in mind when making interventions, to be polite and take a "curious" versus a "commanding" perspective. This is particularly important in those social situations where you have not been granted the role of official group facilitator.

1. Get everyone involved

One problem with group conversations is that they often turn into monologues for the most vocal people in the group. People often politely allow others to monopolize a conversation when they're obviously uncomfortable. We've all felt the awkwardness and read the obvious body language of those tolerating a tirade.

In this situation, validate the speaker, and then ask for input from someone else.

This might sound something like, "Wow Bill, I didn't realize you were so tuned in to the stock market, it reminds me of how important investments are to us all. In fact, it makes me think about you, Margie, having recently started your own business, how is that paying off for you?"

One important thing to notice is that I connected what Bill was saying to something completely different, but related to another person in the group. Recognize that you can make connections from one thing to anything if you simply put your mind to it for a moment.

2. Know it's OK to interrupt when appropriate

One thing to consider when redirecting a conversation is that you may have to interrupt people. This is hard for many of us who've been trained to listen when others are speaking. The funny thing is, I've found "over talkers" actually expect interruptions, as this is the only way they can experience a dialogue.

3. Ensure you are actively listening

Listening is the key to all good conversations. We're often thinking of our response while others are talking. Good conversations require us to stay present and pay attention when others, and ourselves, are speaking.

This means that we don't entertain other thoughts while we're listening. Whenever our mind wanders, we bring our attention back to the speaker. When we're listening closely, we're better able to respond and also redirect the conversation in the presence of "over talkers."

4. Stay on track but be willing to leave it

Some of the best conversations I've had moved all over the place. Not in a disjointed fashion, but like a dance, forming a mosaic of meandering patterns that fit together into a coherent whole.

Be flexible and willing to move from one subject to the next, but beware of leaving incomplete ideas hanging. This is particularly common in conversations where poor listening and unconscious interruptions occur.

If the conversation shifts to a new subject when an idea hasn't been brought to completion, politely interrupt and ask the group if they're complete with the idea, or say something yourself to feel complete about it.

The simple act of intervening to get completion often has the effect of drawing others into deeper listening and better dialogue. Staying with a subject long enough to truly express ourselves around it increases our connection to others.

5. Work on cultivating your relationships

We humans are social creatures who sometimes just need to talk. So coming together simply to chat isn't always a bad thing. However, if we really want to have better conversations, ones where we feel closer to the others in the group, we need to work on relating better to one another.

How do we do this? Start by asking yourself how you like to be related to. For me, it's about being heard, respected, and having others "be real" with me.

In your next conversation notice the following: Do you truly listen to yourself when you speak? Are your words respectful to yourself and others? And most importantly, are you being real in the conversation?

Then get ready for others to nearly invite you to facilitate!

Steve Davis, M.A., M.S., is a Business and Life Coach and Infopreneur who works with leaders frustrated by typical problems they experience in groups. Subscribe to Steve's free weekly ezine for group leaders at http://www.MasterFacilitatorJournal.com and check out his virtual university - packed with information for group leaders and participants at http://www.FacilitatorU.com Contact Steve at contact@facilitatoru.com.




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10 Tips For Successful Facilitation
Quick Tips For Taming Tense Moments
Safety Check: Creating a Safe Meeting Environment
Conducting a Temperature Reading



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